Well, aren't these two the extreme subjects put together? Ain't one complicate enough that I wish to discuss the second one along with the first one on the same page? Foolish, Ain't I?
I don't wish to vent my feelings out through this blog today, instead, I wish you readers to help me understand few things which I failed to understand until this day! It might sound pretty silly, because, not just me, there are zillions of people who have ultimately given up to even try understanding these two subjects!
Wait, why am I referring to women and suicides as subjects? Isn't one the sole reason for existence and the other an indication of weakness?
Mother, she who is the reason for life, the teacher, the best critic, the only possible true friend and many more 'the's'. Sister, the chocolate snatcher, the secret-keeper, the best partner in crime. Again, many 'the's'. Well, wife! I have no clue what she is about! Though when I look up to my mom I understand that being a wife is about being the good soul, the understanding goddess and other complicated stuff like that! When a woman can be as perfect as this, with so many prefixes and adjectives added to her nature, why isn't she considered and accepted by the society, well, for the way she actually is?
Trying to ensure that everyone surrounding you is happy is a hell of a task, at least for me, IT IS! But most of the ladies I know do that effortlessly. In this tedious process of making people happy, do these woman, loose their self? Is it natural to feel unloved and vexed up for such woman who sacrifice everything in their lives for that curved lips on the faces of her loved ones?
Another big question that haunts me till date is that, why are woman considered to be weak physically when they do all the possible household chores flawlessly without seeking any assistance. Aren't we supposed to consider someone mentally weak when they are unable to voice out their likes and are willing to sacrifice their interests to any extent? Isn't this the real sign of weakness and something which is more severe when compared to the physical strengths we all boost around about! Instead, we take pride in talking about our ladies at home when they have sacrificed something for us. What a shame!
I am certain of the fact that the girls of this generation are very different from the ones of 90's at least. They are more independent, independent of emotions, finances, boundaries and drama! But when a girl of this caliber decides to end her life, is that still to be considered as her weakness? Weren't we the same lot appreciating her strengths, her laughter, her confidence and hell yea, her beauty!
She is a fun-loving, confident, proud and a beautiful girl. She draws line wherever it is required, she takes pride in rejecting proposals as she knows what she deserves; she does what has to be done without waiting for instructions. That's her, if you let her be the way she is, she is more than that, for you and for the society.
Getting down to the nasty blame games. We are all good critics with zero tolerance. We are happy to blame and hunt people down with all the possible guilt until and beyond they are tired, either to satisfy our ego or to prove a point merely. I vaguely remember, people pointing fingers at my grand-parents when my aunt passed away at a young age. To what depth do we intend to understand the situations before turning the filth in our mouths on? Zero, actually. Failure, death, wrong investment, unsuccessful venture, loss, crisis... aren't these the situations which need immense support rather than criticism?
Degrading a person or situation has never been proved to have done anything good to a person or a society. When we chose not to love someone or to stop loving someone, when we decide to terminate someone from their job, or even to push their buttons for no reason, are we also not trying to snatch their happiness from them for a duration in their short life?
To put things simple, we as a society, create these disturbances, get into stress and complicate our simple lives. Then, we again, discuss how one person got mean, just because he could handle things his way and found out a way for his problems. We, yet again, talk about the same person, if he chose to end his life, and call him, his family and may be everyone related to him all possible names without even knowing what exactly triggered this horrendous act.
When someone we know committed suicide, it's not them, it is we who are at fault; not once, but twice! Yes, you read that right. TWICE! Once, by being around but failing to understand how to help that person get out of problems. And then, after the loss of a soul, we are keen to know what happened prior to that attempt for death. Isn't this a little sick?
Is it hard to imagine what would it be like to feel sad, to forget happiness and live a lifeless pretentious life? I feel it ain't that difficult, for the kind of lives we are living right now, with barely any friends(No, friends are not those "followers" on your social media accounts), hallucinating happiness and just dragging ourselves to the day until we leave the Planet Earth. When we know what that loneliness is about, why do we not hesitate to let others there? Are we so inhumanly insecure?
The lady in your house is a lovely soul. Respect her! She wouldn't hesitate to sacrifice her life for you! But would that mean you are entitled to snatch away her life. It really isn't hard to take care of someone who takes care of us. All it takes is some love. Love, that is it!
We always relate complicated and complex things with women. Is it because they are never understood or that we are not willing to put any efforts to understand them? Let me try making it simpler for my readers today! Women are not aliens! Trust me, we women, are NOT aliens and all it takes you to understand us, is some time, love and efforts(little, not much)! Now that you have read so far, I urge you to read until the end! That's me. Stubborn! I just made things easy for you. Now that you understand me with one sentence, you are on the path to excel. ( Trust me again, which I know you will, this is purely sarcastic, for I know, you would still fail to understand women, but I feel there is no harm in trying).
For starters, women are also beings like you, like your pets, like those trees, they are mere beings. Nothing astronomical runs her brains and nerves. It's the same fluid that runs in you too! When she asks for something, she needs it, it's that simple. When you have already given her what she has asked for and she ain't completely happy about it, ask. Ask her what is it that she is upset about. With women, everything, almost everything sorts easily when discussed.
When your lady is disheartened, unhappy or even upset with something, please do not fret. Try understanding what is it that is bothering her. We women are very sensitive, though some of us come across as very bold, deep down we are weak, mentally. We tend to take silly things to heart and shut ourselves for no reason that might seem practical to you.
Women are strong enough physically, well mentally, we are drained out by the atrocious society that we live in. If and only if we chose to walk past the norms of this society, we will be able to help ourselves.
P.S - this blog has been written a couple of months ago and is dedicated to Nikki! All those who know me would certainly have known her! And for those who dint get a chance to know her, she was a beautiful girl in and out with some crazy vibes always around spiced with vivid imaginations! Rest in Peace Nikki!
I don't wish to vent my feelings out through this blog today, instead, I wish you readers to help me understand few things which I failed to understand until this day! It might sound pretty silly, because, not just me, there are zillions of people who have ultimately given up to even try understanding these two subjects!
Wait, why am I referring to women and suicides as subjects? Isn't one the sole reason for existence and the other an indication of weakness?
Mother, she who is the reason for life, the teacher, the best critic, the only possible true friend and many more 'the's'. Sister, the chocolate snatcher, the secret-keeper, the best partner in crime. Again, many 'the's'. Well, wife! I have no clue what she is about! Though when I look up to my mom I understand that being a wife is about being the good soul, the understanding goddess and other complicated stuff like that! When a woman can be as perfect as this, with so many prefixes and adjectives added to her nature, why isn't she considered and accepted by the society, well, for the way she actually is?
Trying to ensure that everyone surrounding you is happy is a hell of a task, at least for me, IT IS! But most of the ladies I know do that effortlessly. In this tedious process of making people happy, do these woman, loose their self? Is it natural to feel unloved and vexed up for such woman who sacrifice everything in their lives for that curved lips on the faces of her loved ones?
Another big question that haunts me till date is that, why are woman considered to be weak physically when they do all the possible household chores flawlessly without seeking any assistance. Aren't we supposed to consider someone mentally weak when they are unable to voice out their likes and are willing to sacrifice their interests to any extent? Isn't this the real sign of weakness and something which is more severe when compared to the physical strengths we all boost around about! Instead, we take pride in talking about our ladies at home when they have sacrificed something for us. What a shame!
I am certain of the fact that the girls of this generation are very different from the ones of 90's at least. They are more independent, independent of emotions, finances, boundaries and drama! But when a girl of this caliber decides to end her life, is that still to be considered as her weakness? Weren't we the same lot appreciating her strengths, her laughter, her confidence and hell yea, her beauty!
She is a fun-loving, confident, proud and a beautiful girl. She draws line wherever it is required, she takes pride in rejecting proposals as she knows what she deserves; she does what has to be done without waiting for instructions. That's her, if you let her be the way she is, she is more than that, for you and for the society.
Getting down to the nasty blame games. We are all good critics with zero tolerance. We are happy to blame and hunt people down with all the possible guilt until and beyond they are tired, either to satisfy our ego or to prove a point merely. I vaguely remember, people pointing fingers at my grand-parents when my aunt passed away at a young age. To what depth do we intend to understand the situations before turning the filth in our mouths on? Zero, actually. Failure, death, wrong investment, unsuccessful venture, loss, crisis... aren't these the situations which need immense support rather than criticism?
Degrading a person or situation has never been proved to have done anything good to a person or a society. When we chose not to love someone or to stop loving someone, when we decide to terminate someone from their job, or even to push their buttons for no reason, are we also not trying to snatch their happiness from them for a duration in their short life?
To put things simple, we as a society, create these disturbances, get into stress and complicate our simple lives. Then, we again, discuss how one person got mean, just because he could handle things his way and found out a way for his problems. We, yet again, talk about the same person, if he chose to end his life, and call him, his family and may be everyone related to him all possible names without even knowing what exactly triggered this horrendous act.
When someone we know committed suicide, it's not them, it is we who are at fault; not once, but twice! Yes, you read that right. TWICE! Once, by being around but failing to understand how to help that person get out of problems. And then, after the loss of a soul, we are keen to know what happened prior to that attempt for death. Isn't this a little sick?
Is it hard to imagine what would it be like to feel sad, to forget happiness and live a lifeless pretentious life? I feel it ain't that difficult, for the kind of lives we are living right now, with barely any friends(No, friends are not those "followers" on your social media accounts), hallucinating happiness and just dragging ourselves to the day until we leave the Planet Earth. When we know what that loneliness is about, why do we not hesitate to let others there? Are we so inhumanly insecure?
The lady in your house is a lovely soul. Respect her! She wouldn't hesitate to sacrifice her life for you! But would that mean you are entitled to snatch away her life. It really isn't hard to take care of someone who takes care of us. All it takes is some love. Love, that is it!
We always relate complicated and complex things with women. Is it because they are never understood or that we are not willing to put any efforts to understand them? Let me try making it simpler for my readers today! Women are not aliens! Trust me, we women, are NOT aliens and all it takes you to understand us, is some time, love and efforts(little, not much)! Now that you have read so far, I urge you to read until the end! That's me. Stubborn! I just made things easy for you. Now that you understand me with one sentence, you are on the path to excel. ( Trust me again, which I know you will, this is purely sarcastic, for I know, you would still fail to understand women, but I feel there is no harm in trying).
For starters, women are also beings like you, like your pets, like those trees, they are mere beings. Nothing astronomical runs her brains and nerves. It's the same fluid that runs in you too! When she asks for something, she needs it, it's that simple. When you have already given her what she has asked for and she ain't completely happy about it, ask. Ask her what is it that she is upset about. With women, everything, almost everything sorts easily when discussed.
When your lady is disheartened, unhappy or even upset with something, please do not fret. Try understanding what is it that is bothering her. We women are very sensitive, though some of us come across as very bold, deep down we are weak, mentally. We tend to take silly things to heart and shut ourselves for no reason that might seem practical to you.
Women are strong enough physically, well mentally, we are drained out by the atrocious society that we live in. If and only if we chose to walk past the norms of this society, we will be able to help ourselves.
P.S - this blog has been written a couple of months ago and is dedicated to Nikki! All those who know me would certainly have known her! And for those who dint get a chance to know her, she was a beautiful girl in and out with some crazy vibes always around spiced with vivid imaginations! Rest in Peace Nikki!
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