The Broken Girl - Series #2

Most of the girlie interactions I've come across have one common concern expressed, 'insecurities'! Though I'm thoroughly happy with all my relations, I began to notice that, these conversations disturb my peace of mind a little, may be out of fear that is triggered with the high intense imagination of facing these situations in my life, and I've determined that the best way to overcome this is only by speaking out! 

This girl I knew for a very less duration often spoke of fidelity issues. A young girl next door loves a man who's about to be married to someone else. The woman at work-place confesses of an extra-marital affair as she's not being loved by her legit mate. A well-known lady speaks out  stating that she believes in being a free spirit and living her life as she is aware of her husband's girl friend. 

We women are very fragile! We are timid to let go the love, either for the fear of losing the presumed right love or because of our low self-esteem! Weirdly enough, we are even scared to confess our feelings. Out of these insecurities, I see most of the women tending to ruin the essence of other relations creating disturbances from within. 

Dear woman, 

Never fear walking away when hurt. When he holds you firm and apologizes without you seeking for it, he's the man you might want to wait for. 

When he isn't really concerned about the distance being created, or if he hasn't noticed that you're upset, confess your feelings to him, try discussing about matters that hurt you. There is no harm in taking that initiative for the one you love. 

If he never makes an attempt to understand, my lady, you're an angel! You deserve love, like any other woman on this holy planet. Give your heart another bold chance and walk away! 

It's okay not to be loved but it is NOT okay if you're not respected. Never forget that you get treated the way you let others treat you! 

P.S - This blog is not inclined towards a specific person and is written in general relating the multiple conversations I had with the women I know. No offence intended!

The Broken Girl Series #1

Disclaimer : This blog is being written by a girl who has aggressive mood swings and who speaks her mind and heart out fearlessly!

I am a girl; a girl with a broken heart! Like any other girl, I've been dreaming of a dream wedding since the day I turned 18. Everything from my attire, jewellery, makeup, hairdo, invitation card design, hall decoration, the welcome board, food menu, music, just everything, has been planned, re-planned and modified a zillion times in my head! I've all these so perfectly planned that they flash in front of my eyes in a crystal clear form!

Yet again, like any other ordinary girl, I fell in love with a not so ordinary boy. Here on I learnt everything new! Castes, finances, statuses, politics, what not! Everything that my parents kept me ignorant from has suddenly become a mandatory learning in my life! Prominence of castes and caste systems in India; I can now pen down some great articles on this topic precisely!

Whilst he's still struggling to convince his brother about marrying me, I fail to understand, what this hype is all about! In a generation where gay marriages are legal, why am I still waiting for a nod from a guy, who barely knows me, no, not barely! who doesn't know me at all and hasn't even spoken to me!

With all this drama moving on a full swing in my life, taking an uninvited invitation would be arriving, my birthday, in just another couple of days! Me being the crazy me as always, decided to surprise myself with a surprise birthday party! Being an extremely reserved person and a very confined friends list, I decided to send out messages to all of these important ladies in my life!

While my head and heart are continuously struggling to understand the caste system logic, something more intense strikes my feelings hard. Rock hard I must say, real hard! With all the invitations for my surprise birthday party being sent and with the caste system analysis running constantly in my mind, I forgot to keep myself prepared for the kind of responses that I would be receiving for the invitations which I sent across.

Out of the very few invitations I sent, except for 4 to be precise, everyone else were keen to know when would I be sending a wedding invitation in the place of a birthday invitation and if I ever have plans of getting married at all! While being this rude and insensitive, what people do not wish to realise is that I am a girl facing my own concerns on a daily basis and fighting my own battles for getting married with nobody else to support!

Alas! This society I tell you!

This brings me to the end of the blog, where I sadly announce that my "surprise" Birthday party has been cancelled!

P.S - my birthday is on June 12th. Feel free to wish me only and only if you are not interested to know my wedding date!