Times have changed and so did men!

Disclaimer: This is my take on men depending on the experiences I have had and the different people I came across in the last 2.5 decades. My thoughts may or may not agree with that of everyone else's. 

Whenever we talk of men in general, we tend to associate the gender with a negative notion. Each of us have our set of adjectives to describe this gender. Mine, until before I married the Not So Ordinary Boy were a list of not-so-positive adjectives! Phew, I don't blame myself for this though! Growing up, I have seen men being dominant, arrogant, full of unwanted pride, egoistic and filled with superiority complex. 

Well, if we look at two or even one generation above us, not many men were approachable for household worries. Starting from the breakfast in the morning until dinner, everything has to be served for these men on time, the plate in which they eat or worse wash their hands, has to be removed by someone else. They shouldn't be questioned about their whereabouts. They are never probed on their income and expenses. Most of the men from these two generations wouldn't have even held a broom-stick, why? Well, he is a man! And, there are also men of this age who find it intensely gratifying to oppress women of their house. Sick, ain't it? The sadder truth here is, these men were never independent yet gloat horrendously. 

Maybe there are these kind of men even today, I don't know! But most of them of today's times that I have come across are nothing like the ones' of this egoistic men's era. Agreed there are these spooky stalker messages we women receive on social media even today from hormonal men who find it okay to message a random woman without respecting her privacy, but there are also men who know to respect women and her boundaries. 

Back in those days, we would see women conceiving 7-11 kids with an year's (or worse 10-11 months) gap between each child. As far as I know, the woman's body takes a while to recover after a single delivery; how much ever healthy and strong she is! I don't think the women laid there willingly to give birth, putting such stress on her body and enduring all the pain. They were taught to be quiet, weren't they? We don't see this happening these days, right? There might be ample of other reasons for this, however, I wish to bring light on the man here! None of my friend's or cousin's husbands' I have seen are selfish; they care for their wives and they understand the importance of her health. They treat their woman with respect. Agreed, we all have our share of differences, however, these differences are discussed now; they are not shunned away stating the man is head of the house and he is the decision maker.

We see men taking over kitchen on gloomy days at home. Helping us with all the possible or impossible household chores. From men who humored with ill-manners on monthly cycles now we have men who understand the importance and subsequent changes a woman goes through in a month during her cycles. Also, thanks to movies like Padman, they now know that it is not a sin to walk to a pharmacist and ask for a sanitary napkin. 

I feel we have seen drastic changes in terms of their behavior and mannerisms; everything in a positive light. These might be tiny but let's not make them negligible. Let's not forget that with being all this responsible and independent, they have also got to terms with the fact that it is okay to be sensitive. Let's not be judgmental with every man we come across and push them to make harsh decisions in life. Maybe, we can take a minute to thank them for helping us out with the chores and make them realize the importance of their presence in our lives. 

Remember, not every man is a rapist! :)